My job is to show my clients that their anger is rarely someone else's fault. It's their flaw.
Americans get fatter and fatter and buy more and more diet books, but you don't lose weight by buying diet books - you go on a diet. It's easy to read a diet book, but it's hard to go on a diet.
Our inner beliefs trigger failure before it happens. They sabotage lasting change by canceling its possibility. We employ these beliefs as articles of faith to justify our inaction and then wish away the result. I call them belief triggers.
When we presume that we are better than people who need structure and guidance, we lack one of the most crucial ingredients for change: humility.